Monday, March 9, 2009

Approaching Women - Confidence & Body Language - Part 1

Confidence is essentially the way you display that you know what you are doing with women. If a woman sees a confident man, she is going to assume that you know what you are doing. If she sees the same man, who looks nervous, fidgets a lot and generally looks out of place, she will think this guy doesn't have a clue what to do in his environment.

This goes back to primitive days, where a woman would need a man to protect her in any situation, which in this case is wherever she sees you. She is going to need protection as any number of strangers will usually be around her and it is always possible that a threat will arise against her. For example, if she sees you in a club and you look like you don't know what you're doing, you're not going to be able to protect her from creepy guys who could come hit on her. She is not going to be attracted to this, which means you will probably end up going home alone to jack off, while a more attractive, confident guy is at home getting lucky with this very same woman.

So, now that we've established what confidence is, how can we gain confidence and how can we best display it? Well, I'm going to save how to show confidence for another article, but I'll focus on gaining confidence in this one. If you feel like you're low on confidence, the single easiest way to improve this is to actually know what you are doing. It's amazing how much confidence you will have once you actually know what's going on in situations, because you will have the confidence in yourself to deal with these situations. The easiest way to improve confidence is to get yourself into these situations. For example, if you don't look confident in clubs, the easiest way to improve this is to approach everyone, male and female and act the way you would imagine the club owner would. You gotta own the entire place, make people wonder about you and be as social as possible.

If people see you talking to everyone, they will wonder "Who is this guy?", "Does he really know all of these people?", "Is he the club owner?", "When is he coming over to talk to me?". If you do this, you will immediately have more confidence from knowing that you have the tools to approach anyone, anytime and speak to them and certainly attract women. It doesn't even matter what you are saying or what impression people have of you initially, you could be sparking up interest and then killing it later on, as long as you initially gain that knowledge of what to do.

Another way to gain confidence is to sort out your inner game. If you know you've dealt with a lot of rejection in the past, you need to get it into your head that rejection is not rejection, it is learning. If you don't succeed, you learn. What a lot of people don't realize is that not being successful is actually more beneficial to your development than getting a girl. When you are getting girls, you will still learn but not to the same degree. The advantage of not getting girls is that this is the time where your personality, confidence and technique will improve the most and can be changed the most.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

If this sort of mindset is undertaken, you will have a much more positive approach to not only life, but to your inner game and development. If you are not confident with something, the best thing is to get out there and do it.

If you have the discipline to work on things, you will get to where you want to be.

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